It’s been very difficult to keep this big SECRET! This such an interesting time since we are overjoyed but are keeping the news very close to our hearts. I realized by telling people it would make it real and I was having a hard time. This pregnancy has brought a lot of anxiety, more than I imagined since we became a high risk pregnancy. I always thought in terms of weeks, we have to make it to 12 weeks and then everything will settle down. When you become a high risk pregnancy that changes. Now we have to get to 37 weeks. Although this journey has been different than anticipated we are so very thrilled to be growing our family and to finally share the news with all of you.
I know this is not an easy topic to discuss. There are others out there trying to get pregnant or struggling. This road was not an uncomplicated one for us. It took us a little longer than we thought to conceive and had a few bumps in the road. If you have any questions, feel free to reach out to me. I would be happy to offer support or encouragement to anyone trying to have a baby.
Here’s the really BIG NEWS! You’re probably wondering why we are a high risk pregnancy, besides my age, I will be 40 when I deliver, there are two! What?!? Yes you read that right, we are having twins!
Here is how we found out. When we were at our first ultrasound at around 8.5 weeks the ultrasound technician was looking at my uterus and kind of scowling, which made me nervous. I asked if everything was ok, she responded it all looked good. She then asked if we had done IVF, and I said no. She was still scowling. At this point I was getting a little worried. I looked to Mark and asked why? He could see the screen and said, “Because it looks like we are having twins.” My response, “Holy f*ck” I started laughing hysterically and then crying. There wasn’t one little babe but two?!? It was something I couldn’t wrap my head around. I am obviously beyond excited to welcome two little babies into our family and feel so lucky to be having twins.
I will answer the most common questions I have had so far, because I am sure you will have them!
DO TWINS RUN IN YOUR FAMILY?
No. We are having identical twins which are not genetic. The egg and sperm simply split in two. The odds of this happening are 0.3%.
HOW DO YOU KNOW THEY ARE IDENTICAL?
The kind of twins we are having are called mono/di. Which means they share the same placenta but have their own sacs. This tells us they are identical. Which is so crazy! They have the same DNA! The only difference will be their fingerprints, since that develops later in the pregnancy.
DID YOU DO IVF?
No. Although I am older and this is obviously an option we discussed in case we needed to go that route, we were very fortunate to have conceived naturally.
YOU MUST BE SO SICK.
Don’t hate me. Before our 8 week scan, I felt totally normally. I had a migraine for a couple weeks, but I am prone to migraines so I didn’t really think anything of it. Between around weeks 9 to 13 I would get nauseous at night. Mark and I had a time we called the witching hour. This is when I would need to go to bed, before I started to feel nauseous. It was usually around 8:30pm. Funny enough I’d fall asleep right away and sleep for 10 or 11 hours. From weeks 14 to now I basically fell like myself except I have a really big belly.
DO YOU KNOW THE GENDER?
We do, should I keep it a secret, or tell everyone? Our friends and family know, but maybe I will wait for the nursery reveal to tell the whole world!
I promise this blog will not turn into a twin mom blog, but you will definitely see some maternity fashion, a nursery reveal and tips on how to buy items secondhand, which won’t only apply to babies. I can’t even put into words how happy we are to be pregnant with twins. It feels like a miracle.